Cheap Friends?

I saw this and it got me thinking. Well to be honest I have been doing some thinking on the subject of  friendship for a minute and today I feel like opening up about it. When your little you make friends on the playground, and if your lucky you keep them close in some way shape or form for the rest of your life. Or at least that’s what the movies and kid books would have you believe.

Well, I was not that girl that had a lot of childhood friends. I always had one or two besties around but they seemed to recycle every few years. There was never that one rock solid girlfriend to turn to. I know some people that have a handful of people that they can say they have know for X amount of years and are still incredibly close with them. Confession  I am jealous of these people.

In order for this to not be a complete pity party, I will say I have two or three girlfriends that are really close to me. The one I’ve known the longest of these ladies is the ONLY friend I can say that knew me before my name was R!LEY.   And honestly, that is why I completely trust her. She has seen me at my worst, best, and then worst again. She has never judged or told me what to do. She gives me her opinion freely and honestly. She does it in such a way that and I just listen.

I feel like I need to give a disclaimer here. I’m not discounting any of the other close friendships I have acquired over the last few years. I am incredibly grateful for them too. But that’s really not what this rant is about.

When I started planning my wedding there was a few people that I just knew would be there by my side that are just nowhere in sight today. You know what they say…weddings bring out the best and worst in people. I do think it’s a God sent that I have shed these people from my life but it still hurts.

You see, when I make a friend they are usually with me for life. Even if I end up despising them later. There is always something in me that will remember the good in them even if they have wronged me.

Geez this is becoming a pity party rant.

Er, sorry.

Basically what i’m trying to say is that I’m trying to trim the fat in my life before I embark  on a new journey. That journey being becoming a new wife and God willing a mom.

I have shed the “radio friends”.

I have shed the fair weather friends.

I have shed the friends that were a complete caricature of who I really thought they were.

Crappy. But true.

Any advice on this? How do you fully let go of “freinds” that are really frenemies?

~ Hugs and Smiles ~ R!LEY COUTURE